Journal Writing 1 - Abel Goh

oh man, it's sunday already ! Good question, should i lend to a friend? Hm... lending things lyk money, help or whatever to a friend, i think that's ok and i will too. But what if this friend of your's is taking advantage of you, making use of you? e.g , abel the living ATM, abel my hero or something...and yet, they will eventually become dependant of you.

From the other posts, will lending to a friend help or not help your friend? For this, you have to look deeper into the situation.

It's very hard to make a decision whether to lend to your friend or not. If you do, your friend will natrually be more happy, but if you don't, he/she will ofcourse have some different attitude to you. This theory is very obvious.

I don't think it's a good idea to keep lending to a friend.The reason is, when you keep helping he/she whenever they're in deep shit or something, they will always remember that someone will help them, making them very dependant as mentioned earlier. By doing so, you are not letting your friend to overcome problems faced in their lifes by their own.

From what i've said, it doesn't mean don lend to your friend, it's ok to lend to a friend but YOU have to know the limits. Those people who are always helping the others will eventually turn into a servant , a maid , a person that is being pushed around .

This is because the more you lend to a friend, the demand for a help increased next time. And for those people who had very little friends and these friends of theirs are people who are very dependant ...... 'loathers' i labelled. Those people with had friends like 'loathers', they will keep on helping coz they do not want to lose a friend coz without a friend by yourside when you need help, that feeling is very saddening, very lonely, you will start to think that ' Why isn't there anyone there to help me? Why?'

You will start thinking that you're an outcast. So that's why they kept helping...

But there are friends out there worth helping for. They are your true friends. They will lend to you when you need , they will be there when you need.

All these do you all understand? hahahaa...but in the end, lending to a friend is a good thing, you never knew who will help you when you need.

Yes, i agree with those that had posted, depending on the type of the person, u need to think whether to lend to or not. If you trust this friend of yours, if there's a close friendship between you both, helping each other is not a problem, but helping a friend that u don't trust, will you?

Ah ya, type so much...finally finished.... hahaha, is this enough????